Being an Ally to Transgender and Intersex Folks
Becoming an Ally to Transgender and Intersex People
- Challenge your own conceptions about gender-appropriate roles and behavior
- Ask for the person's Preferred Gender Pronoun or PGP
- Proactively gender trans people to establish pronouns, particularly in introductions
- Intervene in misgendering
- Advocate for more inclusive, non-sex segregated spaces
- Educate yourself and pass on this knowledge to others
- Challenge gender assumptions in the classroom and around campus
- Recognize your privilege & prejudices as a normatively gendered person.
- Do listen if a transperson chooses to talk to you about their gender identity. Be honest about things you don’t understand—don’t try to fake it!
- Don’t assume all transpeople want hormones and/or surgery, or to transition at all.
- Attend QRC events!
- Attend a QRC Ally training to receive an Ally placard to hang in your room or office.
Things Non-Transgendered Persons Take for Granted
- Strangers do not ask me what my “real name” (birth name) is and then assume they have a right to call me by that name.
- People do not disrespect me by using incorrect pronouns even after they’ve been corrected.
- I do not have to worry about whether I will be able to find a bathroom to use or whether I will be safe changing in a locker room.
- Strangers don’t assume they can ask me what my genitals look like and how I have sex.
- If I end up in the emergency room, I do not have to worry that my gender will keep me from receiving appropriate treatment, nor will all of my medical issues be seen as a product of my gender.
Adapted from: California State University Safe Zone Ally Handbook.